Every program starts with a goals self-assessment to capture what the client wants to work on.

This action serves as a time capsule of what they sound like when getting started. Hear real examples of self-judgment from former clients. Can you relate?

Read the examples below that reveal the client’s thoughts, beliefs and mindset. See what questions I would ask next!

Client example 1

Client's mindset is grounded in what's lacking, rather than what talent and skills are abundant. They make the assumption that whatever is next, it will require development of new skills. As a Coach, I hear them speak as if they're an underdog. 

What's already brought out your best?

Client example 2

Another example of feeling lack. Despite endless directions, there is overwhelm and implies this person fears making a bad choice or wrong decision.

What door are you curious to open next?

Client example 3

The client is making up a story that all prior experiences are not relevant or not coming with them. Today’s careers are not linear, and it is exactly the winding path that bring out our diverse experience and knowledge to help us succeed. The second part is indexing on the negative - or catastrophizing.

What if it does work out? (…What does that look like?)

Client example 4

When over-thinkers stay too long in their head, this kind of talk can happen. It’s ruminating on hypothetical problems that haven’t happened. This can start a downhill spiral. It could be also this person is not yet able to shift to a positive outlook because of stress, burnout or a toxic environment where these beliefs formed.

Imagine your Best Self. What do they believe you can do?

Client example 5

In this snippet, self-judgment has two levels. The client believes that they must work extra hard which puts into question how they may appear compared to others. If they do work hard, they need to find the perfection in their output. It’s signaling a “no mistakes” mentality. That’s a very tall mountain to climb.

What would that effort cost you?

Personal change starts with self-awareness

The first step to making a change is becoming self-aware of the behavior you want to shift. You can't change what you can't see, and I hope these examples shine a light on how self-judgment affects your words, mindset and results.

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